My book for the month of October was The Four Elements of Change by Heather Ash. She compared air (clarity and clear vision), fire (action and clearing), water (softening and opening), and earth (nurturing and nourishing) with the steps needed for change and growth.
Consider what you do to nurture and nourish yourself. Often we call buying something or eating something an act of “treating ourselves.” But are we really nurturing ourselves? Or just filling the void with something that is not really in our best interests?
You might have heard the story of my having that conversation (about the facts of life–you understand) with my teen-aged son. Turns out he already knew what he needed to know, but I felt the need to ask anyway. The unsolicited advice that I gave him consisted of four words: “take care of yourself.”
What if we, as the beloved of God, ran our thoughts and actions through a filter that would alert us to whether or not whatever it was qualified as the best for us? Will watching “CSI” or “Law and Order” just before bedtime support us in a restful night’s sleep? Will that “comfort food” bring us comfort tomorrow and the next day, or will we use it to beat ourselves up? Re-living (and re-re-living) an experience that brought us resentment and regret may allow us to re-enact our righteous indignation, but we could have peace instead.
We have that filter. It’s called our intuition (or the still small voice).
In the wonderful book, The Right Questions, Debbie Ford reminds us that one of the questions (and my favorite) is “will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future, or will it keep me stuck in the past?”
Everything counts. We are always choosing something.